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5 Lessons for Motherhood from History’s Only Perfect Teacher {Mom Life Series}

Mom Life Series: 5 Lessons for Motherhood from History's Only Perfect Teacher. Day 5 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Lisa of The Merry Momma. She's sharing what she's learned from the world's greatest parenting expert & teacher.
All this week, I’m sharing my blog space with 4 very dear blogging friends who also write to inspire and encourage moms. Together we are bringing you a special 5-blogger collaborative series all about life as a mom. It’s aptly named the Mom Life Series. 🙂

What I've Learned About My Wife's Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told by a Dad at Home Unexpectedly: My husband thought he knew what my days as a stay at home mom looked like - cleaning and taking care of our children. However, when he unexpectedly found himself with time "off," he got a front row seat to my everyday and a new understanding and appreciation for life as a stay at home parent.


Mom Life Series: 5 Lessons for Motherhood from History's Only Perfect Teacher. Day 5 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Lisa of The Merry Momma. She's sharing what she's learned from the world's greatest parenting expert.It’s the final day of our Mom Life Series, and I pray you’ve enjoyed each day! Our last post is from Lisa of The Merry Momma. She’s sharing lessons she’s learned from the world’s greatest parenting expert. I hope you are encouraged and inspired as you read!

 

5 Lessons for Motherhood from History’s Only Perfect Teacher

Ted Tripp, Kevin Leman, James Dobson, Sally Clarkson … These are all people I’ve read and respected for their Godly wisdom on parenting. Motherhood is a tremendous responsibility, and I seek all the advice I can get, especially from those who have gone (and succeeded) before me.

But even the so-called “experts” aren’t perfect. They are human, they are fallible, and they don’t always espouse my beliefs or convictions on certain issues. That’s the thing about blindly following human speakers or authors — they aren’t God. And their word isn’t supposed to be mistaken for His.

But there is someone who is God, and His example can be followed completely and confidently.

That someone is Jesus, and while his humanity makes Him perfectly relatable, His deity makes Him perfectly reliable. Of anyone who has ever walked or will ever walk the earth, He is our ideal example in every area of life. And though He was never a mother, there are lessons from his earthly ministry that can be applied to motherhood.

The following five lessons are the greatest I could ever learn from any parenting expert.

—> Click here to continue reading “5 Lessons for Motherhood from History’s Only Perfect Teacher” by Lisa at The Merry Momma

 

Make sure to catch each day of this special series.

Day 1: 6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day by Laura of Fantastically Four

Day 2: The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure by Denise Renae

Day 3: The One & Only Parenting Book You’ll Ever Need by Kristina of Messy Tired Love

Day 4: What I’ve Learned About My Wife’s Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told By a Dad at Home Unexpectedly by Me 🙂


 

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The One & Only Parenting Book You’ll Ever Need {Mom Life Series}

Mom Life Series: The One & Only Parenting Book You'll Ever Need. Day 3 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Kristina of Messy Tired Love. She has a challenge for all the moms (and dads) out there, and it's a pretty good one.
All this week, I’m sharing my blog space with 4 very dear blogging friends who also write to inspire and encourage moms. Together we are bringing you a special 5-blogger collaborative series all about life as a mom. It’s aptly named the Mom Life Series. 🙂

What I've Learned About My Wife's Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told by a Dad at Home Unexpectedly: My husband thought he knew what my days as a stay at home mom looked like - cleaning and taking care of our children. However, when he unexpectedly found himself with time "off," he got a front row seat to my everyday and a new understanding and appreciation for life as a stay at home parent.


Mom Life Series: The One & Only Parenting Book You'll Ever Need. It’s Day 3, and today’s Mom Life Series post is from Kristina of Messy Tired Love. She has a challenge for all moms (and dads) out there, and it’s a pretty good one. I hope you are encouraged and inspired as you read!

 

The One & Only Parenting Book You’ll Ever Need

We all need help as a momma. We’re tired. We work hard for our family. We need hope and encouragement from the people who have been deep in the motherhood trenches before us. That’s why parenting books, blogs, and forums are so popular. We NEED each other. We need to know it’s not just us going through the tough stuff.

But I’m here to meet you with a 30-day challenge: STOP READING PARENTING BOOKS.

Yes, I’m actually telling you to take all parenting books off of your nightstand for 30 days. All of them except one. Out of the hundreds of thousands of parenting books ever written, there is one that trumps them all and meets all of our motherhood needs: The Bible.

—> Click here to continue reading “The One & Only Parenting Book You’ll Ever Need” by Kristina at Messy Tired Love

 

Make sure to catch each day of this special series.

Day 1: 6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day by Laura of Fantastically Four

Day 2: The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure by Denise Renae

Day 4: What I’ve Learned About My Wife’s Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told By a Dad at Home Unexpectedly by Me 🙂

Day 5: 5 Lessons for Motherhood from History’s Only Perfect Teacher by Lisa Mullen, The Merry Momma


 

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The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure {Mom Life Series}

Mom Life Series: The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure. Day 2 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Denise Renae with advice for what to do when you fail as a mom.
All this week, I’m sharing my blog space with 4 very dear blogging friends who also write to inspire and encourage moms. Together we are bringing you a special 5-blogger collaborative series all about life as a mom. It’s aptly named the Mom Life Series. 🙂

What I've Learned About My Wife's Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told by a Dad at Home Unexpectedly: My husband thought he knew what my days as a stay at home mom looked like - cleaning and taking care of our children. However, when he unexpectedly found himself with time "off," he got a front row seat to my everyday and a new understanding and appreciation for life as a stay at home parent.


Mom Life Series: The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure. Day 2 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Denise Renae with advice for what to do when you fail as a mom.Today’s Mom Life Series post is from Denise Renae. She has some great advice for what to do when you fail as a mom. I hope you are encouraged and inspired as you read!

 

The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure

Mom failure is a typical area where we can critique ourselves too hard on those mistakes or we can choose to grow and learn from them. They can lead us into a trap of condemnation and guilt or we can allow failure to lead us to become a better person.

“Failures are part of life. If you don’t fail, you don’t learn. If you don’t learn, you’ll never change.”

-Author unknown

There are pros and cons in dealing with mom failure. It all depends on how each mom handles that failure within her thoughts and actions.

Check out the pros and cons listed below and see for yourself how you deal with mom failure.

—> Click here to continue reading “The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure” at Denise Renae

 

Make sure to catch each day of this special series.

Day 1: 6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day by Laura of Fantastically Four

Day 3: The One and Only Parenting Book You’ll Ever Need by Kristina of Messy Tire Love

Day 4: What I’ve Learned About My Wife’s Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told By a Dad at Home Unexpectedly by Me 🙂

Day 5: 5 Lessons for Motherhood from History’s Only Perfect Teacher by Lisa Mullen, The Merry Momma


 

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6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day {Mom Life Series}

Mom Life: 6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day. Day 1 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Laura of Fantastically Four.
All this week, I’ll be sharing my blog space with 4 very dear blogging friends who also write to inspire and encourage moms. Together we are bringing you a special 5-blogger collaborative series all about life as a mom. It’s aptly named the Mom Life Series. 🙂

What I've Learned About My Wife's Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told by a Dad at Home Unexpectedly: My husband thought he knew what my days as a stay at home mom looked like - cleaning and taking care of our children. However, when he unexpectedly found himself with time "off," he got a front row seat to my everyday and a new understanding and appreciation for life as a stay at home parent.


Mom Life: 6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day. Day 1 of the Mom Life Series features a post by Laura of Fantastically Four.

Today’s Mom Life Series post is from Laura of Fantastically Four. She’s sharing about “6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day.” I hope you are encouraged and inspired as you read!

 

6 Powerful Ways to Be Christ-Centered Every Day

Hi, I’m Laura, and I have focus issues.

Here’s a fuller picture: I’m a stay-at-home mom, a work-at-home mom, and a mom of two (ages 5 and 2). Need I say more? Well, I will anyway.

Sometimes what seems like the simplest things are really the most difficult to do. I’m a Christian who has had a relationship with God since I was 12, but I don’t spend every moment of my day in tune with God.

*gasp!*

No matter what’s happening today, I should act and speak in Jesus’ name, and I should be constantly giving thanks to Him. I’m not writing this to be hard on myself, but to let you all know that it’s okay to admit to the truth: living out our faith is challenging.

Every day, I want walk in Jesus’ footsteps, taking up the cross of my sins and imperfections (Luke 9:23). Daily, I want to be transformed the way God intends (Romans 12:12).

So how does a busy mom go about it? What does having a Christ-centered home and spirit really look like?

—> Click here to continue reading “6 Powerful Ways to be Christ-Centered Every Day”

 

Make sure to catch each day of this special series.

Day 2: The Pros and Cons of Mom Failure by Denise Renae

Day 3: The One and Only Parenting Book You’ll Ever Need by Kristina of Messy Tire Love

Day 4: What I’ve Learned About My Wife’s Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom, Told By a Dad at Home Unexpectedly by Me 🙂

Day 5: 5 Lessons for Motherhood from History’s Only Perfect Teacher by Lisa Mullen, The Merry Momma


 

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How God Can Use Your Faithfulness in Motherhood

How God Can Use Your Faithfulness in Motherhood: Faithfulness in motherhood is almost cliche - but it's a cliche because it's true. You can't be a mom (or dad) only occasionally. But if we're faithful, God can use our everyday moments of motherhood to leave an eternal impact on our children & open a door for Him to reach their hearts.

Recently I was asked to share with other moms about one time that God used faithfulness (one of the Fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5:22-23) in my life as a wife and mother.

But as I thought about it, I had a hard time pinpointing “one time.”

Because faithfulness by its very definition is not a one-time thing.

It is constantly, consistently doing whatever God has given us to do, and doing it the best we can, through Him, and trusting in Him (being full of faith in Him) to do what we can’t.

Of course, faithfulness in motherhood is almost cliché, you know, “a mother’s work is never done.” But it’s a cliché because it’s true.

You can’t be a mom – or a dad – just occasionally. Somebody has to be there to get up with our 1-year-old at 4 a.m….again. Or help the 7-year-old with homework. Or get another BandAid for our daredevil of a 5-year-old.  There are stories to be read at nap time and bedtime, dinner to be made, and laundry to be done. Always laundry to be done.

But being a mom is more than just keeping them alive, fed, and clothed. Motherhood has an eternal impact.

How God Can Use Your Faithfulness in Motherhood: Faithfulness in motherhood is almost cliche - but it's a cliche because it's true. You can't be a mom (or dad) only occasionally. However, when we are faithful in our motherhood calling, God can use it to make an eternal impact on our children and open a door for Him to reach their hearts.

I have three boys, my three little “talents” (Matthew 25) that God has given me to invest in, to train, to teach, and to pour into. I have to be faithful with how I use the time I have with them because someday I’ll have to say, “God, here’s what I’ve done with these gifts – these children- You’ve given me.”

Did I push them off to the side in the busyness of life? Or did I faithfully plant seeds, live an example, and show them how to follow God?

Did I show up when it was hard and when it was fun, when I was tired and that one time I was well-rested, when they were cranky and when they were adorable?

Faithfulness can be hard not only because it requires us to keep at whatever we’ve put our hand to, even and especially when it is difficult, but also because the results are not usually instantaneous. This is why we are reminded to not grow “weary in well-doing: for in due season we will reap, if we faint not.” (Galatians 6:9)

And yet God is gracious, and sometimes we get glimpses of the fruit of our faithfulness. And it is sweet, indeed.

For example, in our home, one thing my husband and I have made a priority to be faithful in is nightly Bible and prayer time as a family.  With three young boys, these aren’t long, drawn out, deep discussions on theological ponderings or extensive intercessory prayer meetings. We read from one of our boys’ “children’s” Bibles, talk a little bit about it, and then each of our older two boys pray for things like their family, a friend’s dog, and no bad dreams. 😉


Even still, there are nights when they have trouble sitting still or focusing, even for a few minutes. Nights when their silliness and goofing off are maxing out. There are nights when I really just want them to GO TO SLEEP because it’s been one of THOSE days. Or nights that are later than we’d like, and we’re all tired.

However, by making that time important, we’re already seeing the rewards of that simple faithfulness. We have boys who love God, who are excited about reading the Bible, who love going to church, and who want to pray with us. (Josiah even gets upset sometimes if someone prays before him!)

And most importantly, Elijah and Josiah have both already made decisions to follow Jesus.

It’s not because we’re perfect parents…not by a long shot.

My faithfulness in loving my boys, training and teaching them, leading them to Jesus – it only comes from my faithfulness in being in God’s presence, in prayer, in the Word. In letting His faithfulness inspire me to be more faithful.

Even there, I fail. There have been days when I haven’t prayed or read the Bible – more likely days where I’ve fallen asleep trying to. 🙂

But I keep trying…faithfully as possible.

And I’m trusting Him with the fruits. Because while I can make my boys behave sometimes with a look or a correction, and I can read a Bible story with enthusiasm and flair, I can’t make them want to be good or godly or choose right over wrong, especially when it’s hard. I definitely can’t change their hearts.

That’s God’s arena.

However, He will use my faithfulness in prayer and in pursuing Him and loving my boys well as one of the doors through which the Holy Spirit can flood and fill my children’s hearts and lives.

So, I’ll keep doing all the mom things – folding towels, baking cookies, kissing boo-boos, and taking advantage of teachable moments to point them to Jesus.

And I’ll trust God to faithfully do the rest.

 

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How to Find Your Quiet Moments When Life Is LOUD

How to Find Your Quiet Moments When Life Is LOUD - Life in Lape Haven. As moms, we all have days when the demands are constant, the noise is incessant, and all we need is a quiet moment to focus. Where are they hidden throughout your day?

I’m sitting here on the couch, enjoying one of those very rare moments when my house is quiet in the middle of the day. Sure there is the white noise of the baby monitor close by, the whir of the washer in the other room, the click of my keyboard keys as I type, and the hum as the furnace decides it’s ready to chase away a bit of the fall chill in the house. But other than that – it’s still and quiet.

Our little guy is upstairs napping, our oldest son is at school, and my husband took our middlest to the store with him.

It’s just me and silence.

This is that golden silence that every mother needs on occasion. The calm hush we long for when our kids are bickering, the baby is squalling, the dog is barking, and the oven timer is going off to remind us to hurry along before we burn dinner.

It’s that elusive peace that we are willing to stay up *just* a bit longer for after the kids are put to bed, even when we’re dead-on-our-feet exhausted.

It’s what we need to catch our breath and refresh our souls, and then even when we manage to find it, it’s fleeting.

Like now. Little man is waking up from a shorter-than-he-and-I needed nap.

How to Find Your Quiet Moments When Life Is LOUD

SEVEN HOURS LATER…
So, that was a nice 15 minutes of quiet earlier today. 🙂

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I know you understand those days, moms (and dads). And I know we all also have those days where even 15 minutes of quiet is nowhere to be found.

A lot of my days feel like THAT: days where the demands are constant, the noise incessant (even just when the kids are nicely playing, it can be…energetic), and I feel unfocused, scattered, or overwhelmed. Those loud days can be difficult parenting days.

It’s hard to “mom” well when you can’t even hear yourself think.

However, lately God has shown me that there ARE moments throughout my day that, while not perfectly calm and still, are moments where I could enjoy a pause or get mentally organized or just talk to Him.

But every time I get a moment to myself, whether I’m doing dishes while the boys play upstairs, folding clothes after bedtime, driving home with two boys asleep in the car, or even when I’m getting my makeup on or taking a shower – I’ve been filling up those moments with distractions.

And it’s not always Facebook. 🙂

In fact, usually I’m trying to be overly-productive.

I can listen to a podcast or watch a webinar while I’m making dinner or just cleaning up the kitchen.

Having the Kindle app on my phone means that I can read a book while brushing my teeth or drying my hair.

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Or maybe I’m listening to music as I sort clothes in the laundry room.

And of course, when my boys are otherwise occupied, finally getting to watch something on TV besides Paw Patrol, Wild Kratts, or Tumble Leaf (an Amazon series) is kind of appealing for my clothes-folding or dusting in the living room.

But my multitasking has also been over-tasking my focus and leaving me feeling disconnected from myself and from God.

By filling up all my possible quiet moments, I have been taking away my chance to pause and ponder – like finding the root of recent disciplinary issues with my boys, thinking through blog post ideas that I wanted to write, planning ahead for upcoming family events, or most importantly, praying or meditating on God’s Word and giving Him space to whisper direction, correction, or vision to my heart. (Nothing will renew your strength for the day better than finding time in God’s presence – even if it’s only a few seconds.)

So, I’ve started appreciating those short blips of calm that I find in my days and using them more wisely – by just letting them be truly quiet moments (or maybe “quiet-ish” moments – as quiet as they can be with life still going on around me.)

I turn off the noise that I can, leave my phone alone, and I think, pray, and listen.

Once again, I feel focused, capable, and in control. I’m better able to handle the ever-present “busy” of my kids and the many demands of being a mom, wife, and homemaker.

I’m not saying that when you have a spare moment of your own that you can’t watch TV, listen to music, catch up on your favorite blogger’s posts 😉 or read a book. We need that time, too.

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However, if you are filling EVERY spare moment with your own distractions, you will eventually feel the loss of the peace and preparedness that comes in the quiet.

So, if like me, you’ve felt out of sorts and need to recharge or refocus, look for those little moments where, instead of filling them up, you can pause to appreciate the quiet and let God refill you.

WHERE DO YOU FIND YOUR QUIET MOMENTS DURING THE DAY?

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