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Growing Up On Manna: How Your Struggles Can Build a Legacy of Faith for Your Children

Life in Lape Haven: Growing Up On Manna: How Your Struggles Can Build a Legacy of Faith for Your Children. In her new book, More Than Just Making It, Erin Odom shares how God provided during her family's financial struggles. In my own childhood, my parents' faith in God's provision is what built a solid foundation of faith in my own life.

Inspired by More than Just Making It by Erin Odom, The Humbled Homemaker

(This post may contain affiliate links, which means at no additional cost to you, I may receive a small commission when you use the link.)

 

MORE THAN JUST MY STORY

“We arrived in Charlotte with next to nothing: two bags each, a Pack ‘n’ Play, a stroller, and each other.”

When I read those words in Erin Odom’s new book, More than Just Making It: Hope for the Heart of the Financially Frustrated, the story of her family’s season of financial struggle reminded me of my story.

Or rather, it sparked a look back at my parents’ story and gave me an appreciation for how it has affected my own.

In her book, Erin, better known by her blog name, The Humbled Homemaker, writes about how she and her husband had planned for their family to be heading to Mexico as missionaries. Instead, circumstances sent them to North Carolina, where they would face their “most hopeless financial season.”  Having come through this time of struggles, both financial and in the heart, Erin shares about God’s provision and faithfulness as well as offering hope and advice to those who may still be in the midst of financial (or other) hardship.

My story, like Erin’s, starts with a move, only it was when my parents were following God’s leading for their music ministry group all the way from Ohio to Alabama.

Even before they were married, my parents had been called into ministry and have been serving for most of their lives. While life in ministry has been amazingly rewarding, those rewards aren’t always tangible things, like material wealth.

During the season when my dad was ministering with his singing group, many of the churches where they ministered would give their visiting speakers a “love offering.”(For those who didn’t grow up in church, a love offering is a special passing of the collection plate for the congregation to give to something specific, such as a guest minister or missionary.)

However, love offerings weren’t always as generous as the name might imply, especially when split between the three families represented in my dad’s band.

As it was, during a good portion of my childhood, my family was living on “less than,” even when my father served in specific positions at the churches we attended because not all of them were able to pay their pastors or music ministers a full salary, if they could pay them at all, and even though my dad (and sometimes my mom) worked a regular job in addition to pastoring or ministry.

So, when my parents prepared to move to Alabama with that music ministry group, it wasn’t for financial gain or stability. It was to pursue God’s purpose.

Life in Lape Haven: Growing Up On Manna: How Your Struggles Can Build a Legacy of Faith for Your Children. In her new book, More Than Just Making It, Erin Odom shares how God provided during her family's financial struggles. In my own childhood, my parents' faith in God's provision is what built a solid foundation of faith in my own life.

 

MORE THAN JUST STUFF

I was only a couple of months old when my parents loaded up their tiny car with whatever essentials they could and headed down south with: a crib for me, an Army-type sleeping cot for my soon-to-be 3-year-old brother, pots and pans, linens, clothes, and my dad’s guitar.

That was it.  (See why Erin’s words caught my heart?)

My parents slept on the hard linoleum-covered floor of our apartment with only their sheets and blanket. No beds, no mattress. No couches, tables, or chairs. For months. (My mom recalls that she didn’t even have a broom and had to borrow one from a neighbor.)

I’m sure it wasn’t easy, especially with two little ones. I’m sure it was humbling.

But yet, they knew they were where God called them, doing what He asked them to do.

And there was joy and contentment in that obedience…just not a lot of money or furniture.

“At the time, we didn’t know why we couldn’t find affordable furniture when we got down there,” my dad once told me.

However, God was not withholding His provision.

About 6 months after they’d moved, one of the band members brought a very well-to-do friend from a very well-to-do family to visit one weekend. Like everyone else who came to our apartment, they had to sit on the floor the entire time.

This man left amazed by what he had witnessed, saying that he never realized that you could have nothing and still be that happy.

And wouldn’t you know it? A week later, a random stranger knocked on the apartment door, offering my parents a houseful of furniture from a friend who was moving, but not before my parents’ testimony and witness had left its mark on the heart of that one man.

Looking back on that time, I think my parents could echo what Erin says of her family’s own struggle, “we walked there so God could use us here.”

That always-on-time, God-glorifying provision became one of the cornerstones of my childhood and my faith.

MORE THAN JUST FAITHFUL

There were times in my childhood when, just as Erin shares about her family, God’s provision came in the form of government assistance and food stamps.

I remember what it’s like to only have powdered milk for your cereal or only a couple pieces of toast for breakfast.

I remember being on the “free lunch” roster at school and the little card we had to use in the cafeteria every day.

I remember NEVER eating out unless it was a very, very special occasion, and then it was a huge treat to even get a cheeseburger from McDonald’s.

However, I don’t remember that being a sad thing. I don’t remember feeling defeated or deprived.

Because hand-in-hand with all of that, I remember all my parents’ answered prayers & God’s faithfulness, those times when God showed up in surprising ways, or as Erin calls them, “kisses from Jesus.”

I remember checks coming in the mail at exactly the right moment, beautiful clothes handed-down to me from random people just as I grew out of mine, a Christmas or two when “Santa” showed up early and unexpectedly, surprising even my parents.

Basically, I remember that even though we didn’t have a lot, we always had enough, and I always knew that we were never without the hope and the peace that God would take care of all of our needs.

Having experienced first-hand God’s unfailing provision and witnessing my parents’ faith as they lived in absolute dependency on and trust in God’s goodness has given me my own foundation of faith in His faithfulness and the confidence to trust that He will always make a way because He has good plans for me, even when I can’t see it yet.

 

MORE THAN JUST MANNA

In the past, when my husband and I have talked about my childhood, I’ve mentioned to him that in some ways, it was like the actual children among the children of Israel in Exodus, like that generation who were born in the wilderness.

Because there were among that second generation of Israelites coming out of Egypt those who didn’t know anything of Egypt, except in stories from their parents. From the time they were born, they knew only a cloud by day, a fire by night, and manna in the morning. Their Source, their Provider had always been God.

And just like those Israelites, I always knew that ultimately, God was our provision. He was taking care of us.

Sure, the children of Israel might not have had sumptuous feasts in the wilderness. But they had manna. Always the manna.

(In my case, sometimes the manna tasted like government cheese. 🙂 Haha)

But it was still miraculous provision.

When Erin compares God’s provision in her life to manna, she also reminds us, “The manna or ‘bread’ from heaven in Exodus 16 wasn’t what the Israelites wanted, but it was what they needed.”

Life in Lape Haven: Growing Up On Manna: How Your Struggles Can Build a Legacy of Faith for Your Children. In her new book, More Than Just Making It, Erin Odom shares how God provided during her family's financial struggles. In my own childhood, my parents' faith in God's provision is what built a solid foundation of faith in my own life.

For those who remembered Egypt, the “want” versus “need” could be a problem, but the only way that their children would have known to be discontent with what God was providing was through the complaints of their parents and those around them.

For my family, while God’s manna was a constant, we didn’t take it for granted. I’m sure it wasn’t always what my parents (or my brothers and I) wanted, but thankfully my parents are more of the Joshua and Caleb type – they trust God despite the circumstances and what they can see.

That’s because they’ve walked through the wilderness with Him, and He has ALWAYS been faithful. Through every need. Through every struggle. Through every triumph.

And Erin has walked there, too. She says, “we could trust the Lord to meet our future needs because He showed over and over that He met our present ones.”

Growing up in a home that trusted God to provide, growing up on His “manna,” I have lived Psalm 37:25, which says, “I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.”

God always supplied for our needs, and thankfully at some point, our family began to prosper more financially, although never to the point we would be considered wealthy by American standards.

 

MORE THAN JUST US

As I read my way through Erin’s book, I became more and more excited, not just for Erin and what she learned through their time of financial hardship and not just for how her experience and advice will empower, encourage, and equip others who are facing difficult times. I wasn’t just excited because of the challenge to look beyond ourselves, our attitudes, and our preconceived ideas so that God can use us to bless others, as we align ourselves with His heart, His Word, and His purposes.

I was most excited for her children and the children of those who read her book and begin to look for God’s faithfulness.

Why? Because Erin and those other parents will be leaving their children an eternal legacy of God’s goodness.

In a recent podcast interview she did with Becki Rogers on “Not Quite Supermoms,” Erin shared about talking to her 9-year-old daughter, who had been quite young when Erin and her husband were struggling financially.

Having heard her mom talking about the book as Erin was writing it, the little girl asked one day, “Mommy, were we poor?”

And Erin’s answer made me tear up and shout praise to God as the same time.

Because Erin was able to say, “Yes, we were. But look what God has done!

(And it wasn’t just that God was blessing them financially. It was that God had provided in every area of need – wisdom, relationships, resources, and more.)

 

Oh, parents. Don’t be like the older generation in the wilderness who lost heart or complained in the struggle – whether it’s financial, spiritual, health-related, or whatever. Be among those who trust in God to lead them through difficulties, putting their hope in His plan and His provision, even when it seems like “just manna.”

Not only will He be faithful to you, not only will He provide exactly what you need when you need it, but you’ll have an opportunity to be like my parents, like Erin, and like that next generation of Israelites, who had the faith to take the Promise Land.

Let God use your struggles and the overcoming of them to become a memorial to God’s power and faithfulness, like the rocks from the Jordan River in Joshua 4.

In that chapter, God held back the river so His people could cross on dry land as they headed into the Promise Land. Then God charged them to create a memorial with stones from the river. He wanted them to have a reminder for themselves and future generations of what God had done for them there.

Because I had parents who trusted God to make a way, I’ve trusted and seen God make a way. No, my faith isn’t perfect, but when I face my own difficulties, I don’t have to be overwhelmed because I have reminders of His provision in their life and in my own. I can look expectantly for God to show up as He always has.

And when He does, I can now tell my own children, “Look what God has done!” and I know He will continue the legacy in them.

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Life in Lape Haven: Growing Up On Manna: How Your Struggles Can Build a Legacy of Faith for Your Children. In her new book, More Than Just Making It, Erin Odom shares how God provided during her family's financial struggles. In my own childhood, my parents' faith in God's provision is what built a solid foundation of faith in my own life.

MORE THAN JUST MAKING IT

It was such a “kisses from Jesus” thing to be a part of Erin’s launch team for her new book, More than Just Making It: Hope for the Heart of the Financially Frustrated, which releases September 5.

No matter where your family is financially, this book has something to offer you. As I mentioned above, this book is part memoir of her family’s most hopeless financial season and part mentoring to help those still facing a struggle, Erin’s desire is to bring hope and allow God to bless others through their story.

As she says, “We walked there so God could use us here.”

In More Than Just Making It, Erin shares her heart and her experiences with a transparency and vulnerability that let you know you are not alone, and she reminds us that we can trust in God’s provision and His plan in every situation. Her book offers encouragement and inspiration as well as a plethora of simple, actionable strategies and habits for saving money and provides readers with a stocked arsenal of resources to help you go from financial stress to financial success.

This is definitely a book that I highly recommend.

In fact, I recommend that you pre-order it NOW (before September 5) so that you can claim over $200 worth of amazing bonuses, including the What’s for Dinner Challenge (a 3 week e-course on meal planning), a printable Gratitude Journal, a 2-month subscription to You Need A Budget, and more, as well as access to the first 3 chapters so you can start reading immediately!

Plus, pre-ordering qualifies you for Erin’s special MEGA-GIVEAWAY, where one lucky entrant will win a prize package worth over $2,000! (Yes, $2,000!) You can see the complete list of prizes here: Mega-Giveaway.

READ THE FIRST CHAPTER: Sneak Peek – 1st Chapter

You can follow Erin on her blog, The Humbled Homemaker, and also on Facebook, Instagram, & Twitter.

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Life in Lape Haven: Growing Up On Manna: How Your Struggles Can Build a Legacy of Faith for Your Children. In her new book, More Than Just Making It, Erin Odom shares how God provided during her family's financial struggles. In my own childhood, my parents' faith in God's provision is what built a solid foundation of faith in my own life.Congratulations to our giveaway winner, Denise! 

To quote Erin, “When God’s people help others, they’re demonstrating His love and kindness. When we receive provision from other people, we’re able to witness God’s generosity in our lives and praise Him. Both giver and recipient can worship god together…

I am honored to be the giver this time. One happy reader will get the joy of being the recipient of their very own copy of Erin’s new book, which comes out on September 5. (The giveaway winner will receive their copy within that week.)

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Thanks for entering! This contest is open to residents of the U.S. only and runs from Monday, August 21 (12:00 a.m.) through Sunday, August 27, 2017, at 11:59pm EST (I know, specific.).  The winner will be notified by email within 48 hours of the contest ending. Winner has 48 hours to respond before another winner is selected.

 Note: I was privileged to receive an advance copy of the book from Zondervan in exchange for my honest opinion. My positive review is based solely upon on how much I enjoyed this book.

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Life in Lape Haven: The Most Important Thing My Child Learned from His 1st Grade Teacher & How It Challenged Me as a Mom. Some lessons are more valuable than reading, writing, and arithematic. My son's teacher definitely had the right priority when it came to what she wanted her class to remember most.

And How It Challenged Me As A Mom

It was Elijah’s last day of first grade. He came home, excited for summer and with creative plans for using up all his leftover school supplies (no way, kid – those glue sticks are unopened! You can take them to second grade!).

 He also had a letter for us from his teacher.

While it was mostly a summary of the year and appreciation to parents for working with her to help their child excel, one of the paragraphs near the end absolutely gripped my heart.

“On my board at school I have a sentence written. It’s simple, only a few words, and reads, “She loved me.” I’ve kept this on my board for years as a reminder to myself of my top priority – that they would know how much I loved them.”

Maybe it was because I was already emotional thanks to life with a young infant and all the sleepless nights and hormonal fun that brings.

Maybe it was realizing that my first baby was growing so quickly and already preparing to head into the second grade.

Or maybe, and most likely, I was blinking back tears because not only did Elijah know that his teacher loved him, I KNEW that she did as well.

(We mamas know when someone loves our children. And it blesses us.)

Life in Lape Haven: The Most Important Thing My Child Learned from His 1st Grade Teacher & How It Challenged Me as a Mom. Some lessons are more valuable than reading, writing, and arithematic. My son's teacher definitely had the right priority when it came to what she wanted her class to remember most.

Even if I gave you a play-by-play of the year, I don’t think I could list all the times and ways this teacher went above and beyond just teaching my child reading, writing, and arithmetic; all the times she helped him through a tough morning (he had some anxious moments as we got closer to Isaiah’s due date and those days when Mommy was at the hospital); all the special smiley faces she put on his schoolwork when he referenced God, Jesus, a Bible verse, or church, encouraging him in his bold faith; and all the extra hugs and prayers she sent our entire family as we all adjusted to our new normal after Isaiah was born.

And I know that Elijah wasn’t an exception. She poured her heart out for all her students (or as she calls them, “her little buddies”).

Often. And joyfully.

As I looked at that note from his teacher, I was challenged.

Because my top priority as a mother is pretty much the same, and then some – that beyond everything else that my children know about me, they’ll know without a doubt that I love them.

That they are the most important people in my life (along with God and Daddy ;)).

That I will pour my heart out for them always. And joyfully.

But some days that message may not be as clear, when I’m frustrated, or exhausted, or overwhelmed. Those moments when my patience is wearing thin from answering yet another question, or refereeing yet another argument, or having to repeat myself and threaten punishment when they just aren’t listening. Those can be hard days for a mommy

Life in Lape Haven: The Most Important Thing My Child Learned from His 1st Grade Teacher & How It Challenged Me as a Mom. Some lessons are more valuable than reading, writing, and arithematic. My son's teacher definitely had the right priority when it came to what she wanted her class to remember most.

So, I let those three little words from his teacher’s board – “she loved me”- be not only a challenge to make sure that they KNOW my love, but also to inspire a prayer to the One Who is Love.

A prayer that God would help my words, actions, responses, and body language to continually remind my boys of how much I love them.

A prayer that my energy, time, and focus would be spent where it has the most eternal impact (on my family & others) and not be so easily diverted to distractions (social media, television, random projects).

A prayer that, even when they are being disciplined, my children would always know that it is out of love (and that it would never be out of irritation or for my convenience).

A prayer that they realize that they are treasured by Mommy for exactly who they are – unique, precious gifts from God.

And that in those moments when it’s hard to find the joy or hard to continue to pour myself out, a prayer that I would rely on God alone as my source of strength and let His love flow through me even more.

A prayer that my love would, most importantly, point them to His love and be the reason that they can easily understand what it means when the Bible says that nothing can separate us from His love.

Life in Lape Haven: The Most Important Thing My Child Learned from His 1st Grade Teacher & How It Challenged Me as a Mom. Some lessons are more valuable than reading, writing, and arithematic. My son's teacher definitely had the right priority when it came to what she wanted her class to remember most.

“For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”  – Romans 8: 38 & 39


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10 Items that Helped Us Adjust to Life with a New Baby

Life in Lape Haven: 10 Items that Helped Us to Adjust to Life with a New Baby. Preparing for all the changes and transitions that come with newborns and infants can be overwhelming, but we've found a few products and ideas that have helped make the adjustment a little easier.

Somehow our littlest guy, Isaiah, turned 7-months-old this week. Seriously, time has FLOWN by.

And yet, it’s still gone slowly enough to remind me that life with a newborn or infant can be challenging. What was once normal and routine gets thrown out the window as everyone in the family adjusts to all the transitions.

Preparing for all the changes in addition to planning to care for a new baby can be overwhelming, whether you’re welcoming your very first baby or you’re an experienced parent.

While I’ve shared with you a few new tips and tricks we learned with Isaiah, I realized that there are some products and ideas that we have been using over the last seven years  – and for all three babies – that also helped make the adjustment to life with a little one a bit easier.

(This post contains affiliate links, which means that at no additional cost to you, I may receive a small commission when you use the link.)

 

SLEEPING

One thing that EVERYONE knows, whether they have children or not, is that babies and sleep don’t always go together. Sure, some parents are blessed with better sleepers than others, but all babies will, at some point in their infancy, have Mommy, Daddy, or both of you up in the middle of the night.

While we’ve never had horrible sleepers – Isaiah’s been our toughest night owl – we’ve also never had babies that easily slept through the night from a young age. (For tips on that, you might want to check out this post from my friend Denise Renae: How I Got All 5 of My Babies to Sleep Through the Night)

Life in Lape Haven: 10 Items that Helped Us to Adjust to Life with a New Baby. Preparing for all the changes and transitions that come with newborns and infants can be overwhelming, but we've found a few products and ideas that have helped make the adjustment a little easier.

However, we have found a few things that helped our little guys sleep better and longer when they finally did go to sleep.

1. HALO Sleepsack Microfleece Swaddler

For starters, as I mentioned in the tips and tricks we’ve learned with our third baby, a good sleep sack can make an amazing difference. We always thought that any sleep sack was as good as another…until we learned differently with Isaiah.

He slept fine in the handed-down ones we had from our first two boys, but he was a bit smaller than they had been, so I ordered a new HALO Sleepsack Microfleece Swaddler in the newborn size. The difference was notable and impressive, and all those other sleep sacks were left in the drawer while our little guy slept longer in his Halo than he had since coming home from the hospital. Hallelujah!

 

2. Nightime Soothers

The other thing that all of our boys have had is some type of musical nightlight soother. For Elijah it was a Fisher-Price Soothe & Glow Seahorse , which played a lullaby and glowed. He used it until he was at least 2 years old. (He liked it so well that we also gave a couple as baby shower gifts.)

Josiah had a similar cuddly animal, a Fisher-Price My Little Snugamonkey, but it alternated playing soothing nature sounds as well as a couple classical songs. After years of listening to the seahorse’s lullaby over the baby monitor, rainforest ambiance was a welcome change!

For Isaiah, we took my brother’s recommendation for a plug-in night time soother from Skip Hop (the Skip Hop Moonlight & Melodies Nightlight Soother Elephant ) that is very customizable. It projects a starscape on the ceiling (also adjustable), plays either nature sounds or lullabies, and has a nightlight feature as well.

My brother had purchased one for his older boy, and the family liked it so much, that his little brother wanted one, too. Since both my nephews had the owl version, we opted to get Isaiah the elephant. We love it, and I especially love that I can crank up the volume on the sounds during nap time to drown out Isaiah’s noisy brothers playing downstairs. 

 

BATH TIME

It seems that when it comes to baths and water, either baby loves it or he hates it.

Thankfully, with all three of our boys, it’s been a love affair from their very first times in the tub (even though Elijah didn’t really enjoy getting water in his face.)

3. Bath Cozy Cover

I think part of our bath time success was due to an awesome baby shower gift: a bath cozy cover.

I’d never heard of one, but my cousin found it at the store and went off-registry, and we have been very glad she did.

The cozy cover is kind of like a giant washcloth that you dip in the warm water and cover your baby with during his bath. It keeps him warm and soothed, so that bath time becomes a calm, fun experience.

You can always use an actual washcloth or maybe a hand towel in a pinch, but I did find something similar to ours (which is, again, over 7 years old) online.

 

4. Clear Shower Curtain & Double Curved Shower Curtain Rod 

The other thing you quickly learn about baths and life with a newborn is that as a new mom (or dad), it can be difficult to get that spare minute to get *YOUR* bath or shower.

One of the best pieces of advice I found online when preparing for our first baby was to buy and put up a clear shower curtain for your shower. This allows you to have the baby in their bassinet or swing in the bathroom with you. You can see them, and they can see you, and you can get all clean and refreshed without the stress of worrying if baby will wake in his crib before you finish.

We also installed a double shower curtain rod so we could have a cloth curtain and a clear curtain. I chose a curved curtain rod because that gives you a little more room in the shower in those last months of pregnancy or when you inevitably end up showering with your baby or toddler.

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NURSING

It’s probably no surprise that the mom who chose to give birth to all three of her babies as “naturally” as possible without pain medications (although Isaiah’s story was a little off my birth plan) also chose/chooses to breastfeed those babies. In fact, we’ve rarely had to use bottles (Isaiah just plain refuses them.)

5. Nursing-Friendly Tops & Dresses 

For me, I’ve needed things that make breastfeeding easier, such as good nursing-friendly tops and dresses, nursing bras, which are not always so easy to find. Sure, you can look for button-down shirts or tops with elastic necklines, but sometimes you want something easier.

Since it had been a few years between babies, I was in need of replacing a lot of my nursing wardrobe when Isaiah arrived. Two of the new companies I found were Latched Mama and Milk Nursingwear.

Latched Mama: They have a fun selection of more casual style tops, dresses, and pajama sets. I especially love my Latched Mama nursing hoodie sweatshirt! (They were available on Amazon, which was great for our Amazon Prime free 2-day shipping, but they don’t currently have anything listed.) Try Amazon Prime 30-Day Free Trial

Milk Nursingwear: They have more varied styles for how you access the nursing areas of their clothes, and they have more selection in dressier styles. While they can be a bit pricier, when you shop directly through their site, you can earn 5% back on each order, plus you can check out their sales. Or you can go through my Amazon link below and use your Prime shipping. 🙂

 

6. Kindred Bravely Nursing Bras

Of course, a good foundation is also important, especially when you’re nursing, so I had to replenish my stash of nursing bras and tanks, too. That’s when I found Kindred BravelyNursing bras and tanks are their specialty. They also sell maternity/nursing pajamas, nightgowns, and panties. You can use the Amazon link below or use this referral link directly at Kindred Bravely and get $10 off you first order of $50 or more.

 

Life in Lape Haven: 10 Items that Helped Us to Adjust to Life with a New Baby. Preparing for all the changes and transitions that come with newborns and infants can be overwhelming, but we've found a few products and ideas that have helped make the adjustment a little easier.

7. Udder Covers Nursing Cover

For nursing in public, I’ve always used a cover from Udder Covers  (because they sent me a coupon for a FREE one, and I just had to pay shipping). I love the special stiffened neckline that allows me to see my baby – and him to see me – easily.

(And despite what you might read about nursing in public, I’ve never gotten any bad reactions. Actually it’s been quite the opposite, whether I’m at a restaurant, church, or at the park with my boys)

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8. Bamboobies Washable Nursing Pads 

Of course, if you’re nursing, you need nursing pads, and my absolute favorite ones are Bamboobies Washable Nursing Pads. With Elijah, I used the regular disposable kind from the store, and they were uncomfortable. I had all kinds of issue, including clogged ducts – OUCH! When I was pregnant with Josiah, I heard about Bamboobies from a post online, and I was determined to try them out. The difference was amazing. They are incredibly comfortable, don’t leak, are washable (saves $$$), and I haven’t had another issue with clogged ducts or the like since.

(They were also one of things that were a must in my hospital bag!)

 

OTHER HELPFUL ITEMS FOR LIFE WITH A NEW BABY
9. Baby K’tan Carriers 

With Josiah, I discovered the joy of baby wearing, but my carrier was more heavy duty, for outdoor adventuring and Life in Lape Haven: 10 Items that Helped Us to Adjust to Life with a New Baby. Preparing for all the changes and transitions that come with newborns and infants can be overwhelming, but we've found a few products and ideas that have helped make the adjustment a little easier.walks. Plus, I had a horrible time getting it on without someone to help snap the back clasp.

So, for Isaiah I knew I needed something lightweight that I could get on quickly and without help. That’s why I went with a Baby K’tan Original Carrier. It was easy and quick to put on, whether it was for just around the house, a trip to the grocery store, or a hiking outing with our whole family.

 

10. Baby Care Tracking App

One other thing that has helped us keep up with life with a baby has been a Baby Care Tracking App. These apps work like a daily log for baby’s sleeping, feeding, diaper changes, and more.

With both Josiah and Isaiah, I’ve used the iBaby app on my Android, but there are quite a few options, most of them free, out there.

 

What items did/do you find helpful with your newborn/infant?

 

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How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

Last week our family went on a little getaway, the first with all three of our boys. Since we weren’t sure how well 6-month-old Isaiah would travel (he won’t take a bottle or pacifier at all, which has been fun), we knew we might have to make more frequent stops. That’s why we decided to vacation a little closer to home, picking an area within a 5- to 6-hour drive from us. We also decided to go for only 4 days.

In preparation for this grand adventure, I made an extensive packing list, stocked up on car-friendly snacks, printed out some drive-time scavenger hunt sheets and other traveling activities for kids, and created an on-my-visor behavior clip chart to help our older two boys stay on track.

(You can read more about how that worked and get additional tips and tricks for traveling with kids from me and other moms in this post on The Merry Momma.)

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

The on-visor behavior clip chart…on a string.

The night before our road trip started, Brad was praying with our boys at bedtime. Toward the end of the prayer, he asked that God would use our trip to bless not only us but others.

And God gave me an idea immediately of a very easy way to accomplish that and make our family vacation about more than just us.

The morning of our trip, we loaded the car, got the boys settled, and I hung the clip chart string on my visor. Then I put 3 large wire clothespins on the left corner of my visor. Even Brad looked at me in confusion.

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

“What are those for?” Elijah asked.

So I explained.

“These three clips are for the three big days of our vacation. Last night Daddy prayed that our trip would bless others, right? Well, each day our family will do a random act of kindness or find someone we can help. When we’ve completed our task for the day, we’ll take a clip down. Until we do, though, these clips will remind us to be on the lookout for ways to be kind, encouraging, or helpful to other people.”

My boys, especially Elijah, were excited about the plan, and they began coming up with ways we could bless someone.

Over the next few days, amid the excitement of hotel stays, daily adventures, and eating out, I was surprised by how often my boys (or my husband or I) would mention an idea for a random act of kindness. Their suggestions weren’t always feasible, but at least I knew they were busy thinking of others.

So what DID we do?

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

Enjoying our treats at Dairy Queen (note my surprised look as Isaiah tried to steal my shake)

Our first fun act of kindness was passing out ice cream bars to a group of construction workers staying at our hotel. They had been sitting outside when we took the boys out to the pool early in the evening, and they were still there later when we were headed out to get a treat at the nearby Dairy Queen. Before we left the restaurant, we grabbed a pack of ice cream bars, just in case they were still outside when we returned.

When they questioned us about the gift, we just told them that we wanted to do something nice for others as a family and show God’s love. I’m not sure who enjoyed the surprise more – our boys, who were very excited to share, or the men and ladies who were delighted with not only the ice cream, but seeing our boys’ excitement to share with them.

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

Dinner at the diner.

We earned our next day’s clip in a more subtle way. Since much of our day had been spent exploring a state park (and on a weekday), we didn’t interact with many other people until we went to dinner. Throughout our meal, I noticed that our waitress seemed a bit stressed, and while our boys weren’t behaving badly, they were energetic enough to add a little more chaos to the atmosphere.

We didn’t try to initiate much of a conversation with her or find out how her day had been going because, honestly, when you’re wrangling three little boys during mealtime, it’s much kinder sometimes to focus on keeping your children’s mess and noise to a minimum and just let people work. But I knew that she should be on the receiving end of a little kindness before we left. Even though I didn’t mention my observations to Brad, halfway through the meal, he quietly suggested to me that we leave her a substantial tip (far more than just 20%) as our kindness for the day. So we made sure to express our appreciation for her attentiveness and excellent service both verbally and monetarily.

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

Family selfie, blocking most of the view of the beautiful mountains behind us.

Our third clip…well, we actually didn’t get to do anything for our last clip, which really bothered our boys. The last day of our trip was spent mostly traveling home, and we didn’t even go through a drive-through, so the easy idea of paying for the person behind us couldn’t even be used. When we did stop for dinner, there weren’t any other people in the restaurant until we were leaving.

However, I don’t feel as though it was a failure because, again, my boys were looking hard for opportunities to help others (whenever we were around other people. Haha). And I know that the two clips that we used were definitely ones that God directed us to do.

Life in Lape Haven: How We Made Our Family Vacation About A Little More. A simple idea on the day we began our trip gave our vacation an extra focus on kindness toward others.

So despite only accomplishing two out of the three things, getting my boys to think of others often during our family vacation and knowing that we were obedient in doing what God asked us to when the opportunities were there, to me means that we were successful in making our vacation about much more than ourselves.

And those three clips will be staying in the car so that we can continually be reminded to think of others and look for ways to be kind, helpful, and encouraging every day.

(Next vacation I plan to be much better prepared to continue this tradition, so check out the links and resources below that I’ve found with ideas we can use.)

Random Acts of Kindness

101 of the Best Random Acts of Kindness Ideas 

30 Random Acts of Kindness to Do with Your Kids 

Super Easy Act of Kindness for Kids (We are TOTALLY doing this soon!)

67 Awesome Random Acts of Kindness for Kids

HOW DOES YOUR FAMILY SPREAD KINDNESS?

 

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Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children

Life in Lape Haven: Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children. It doesn't take much to bring joy to our children's lives. Here are some ideas on simple ways to add some fun to your every day with your kids.

The other day I was gathering everything up and ready to head out the door to the grocery store with my two youngest boys when Josiah decided it would be a good time to ask Mommy for a cup of milk.

Since milk was already on the shopping list, and I was kind of in a rush, I grabbed our nearly-empty milk jug from the refrigerator and handed it to my 4-year-old.

“Here you go. Do you want to drink it straight from the jug?”

I figured there wasn’t much left in it, so we’d be throwing the empty container into the recycle box anyway. Plus, I wouldn’t have to get out a cup, and Josiah might have fun with this.

Oh, my goodness! His reaction was adorable.

He gave me a slightly surprised but very excited grin and nod, followed by the best giggle ever – It was equal parts delighted and ornery. Then he proudly chugged down his milk.

Life in Lape Haven: Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children. It doesn't take much to bring joy to our children's lives. Here are some ideas on simple ways to add some fun to your every day with your kids.

My split-second decision, made primarily to save me time and hassle, brought my little guy so much joy that it got me thinking about all the simple, every day ways that we, as parents, can spark joy in our kids.

Life in Lape Haven: Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children. It doesn't take much to bring joy to our children's lives. Here are some ideas on simple ways to add some fun to your every day with your kids.

Now, this isn’t about always giving your kids what they want or thinking that they have to be happy (or happy with you, Mom or Dad) all the time. We all know that our responsibility as their parents is to lovingly teach and train them, and they aren’t always going to be able to have fun or enjoy the process, especially when we have to discipline them.

But with all the hard work of parenting, there are rewards. One of the best parts about parenting, and one that you don’t hear enough about, is that Moms and Dads have the prime opportunity to show their children how to truly enjoy life and celebrate all the good things that God has given us. We get to help them embrace challenges and adventures and watch them grow through them. We are the ones who encourage them to try new things as we nurture and cultivate their senses of humor, their curiosity, and their imagination.

In short, we get to have fun with these little human beings!

And really, they make it easy. They have a natural, God-given desire to explore and discover, and they have an eye for seeing the wondrous and amazing in the common place, every day things around them.

So bringing them little moments of joy usually isn’t hard at all, like letting them drink straight from the milk jug once in a while (and with the understanding that we don’t do it unless we are finishing off the contents!)

HERE ARE SOME OTHER IDEAS FOR BRINGING JOY TO YOUR LITTLE ONES:

Life in Lape Haven: Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children. It doesn't take much to bring joy to our children's lives. Here are some ideas on simple ways to add some fun to your every day with your kids.

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Explore the World & Try New Things

Let them blow those dandelion puff seeds. It’s just plain fun, and it would probably be good for you to pick a couple to blow on, too. You know you want to. (I’ve personally never outgrown it.)  Oh, and don’t worry about your lawn. Dandelions are good for the honey bees. 😉

Go through the car wash. Seriously, my boys love this, especially when we go to the “big” one with the big rotating brushes and colorful foam. If you treat something as an adventure, little kids are generally pretty willing to play along.

Also: Have picnics – even just in the backyard or in the middle of the living room, say “yes” to roly polies as pets, encourage them to play in the rain & puddles (when it’s safe, and they are suitably dressed)

 

Life in Lape Haven: Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children. It doesn't take much to bring joy to our children's lives. Here are some ideas on simple ways to add some fun to your every day with your kids.

Give them the freedoms and independence that you can.

Allow them to pay at the store. Whether they are buying something with their birthday money, or you hand them the cash to give to the cashier during a grocery run, children feel rather grown up when they get to do “big people” things. They love that.

Similarly, giving little children the freedom to pick out their own clothes – and not making them change unless absolutely necessary – is guaranteed to bring them joy. It might just give you a laugh or two, as well. 🙂 Josiah adores “fun” socks, and I’ve learned to just forget about whether they actually match his clothes or not. Sometimes he does well; other times his outfits are awesome in a totally different way. (This also applies to shopping for clothes, too.)

Another “free to choose” thing that my boys love is when I give them the chance to pick what kind of cookies we’ll bake. And then they get to help me in the kitchen. Whether they are just dumping in the ingredients after I’ve measure them out, or Elijah is stirring oatmeal on the stove (supervised), letting kids lend a hand with meal (or goodie) prep is not only fun (forget the mess, make the memories), but it’s teaching them a valuable life skill.

Also: Let them eat that sugary cereal on occasion.

Life in Lape Haven: Simple Ways to Spark Joy in Your Children. It doesn't take much to bring joy to our children's lives. Here are some ideas on simple ways to add some fun to your every day with your kids.

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Silly

Have a spontaneous dance party. For us, that usually means while I’m doing dishes, folding laundry, or doing some other always-present household chore that I can do with a few turns, wiggles, and flourishes. I’ll turn on my Amazon Prime Music, and my boys will break out their moves. ( Try Amazon Music Unlimited 30-Day Free Trial)

Also: Go through the closets and create silly costumes. Or use old make-up (or Dollar Store finds) for face paint fun. Start a water gun / water balloon fight. Become the “tickle monster.”  Share jokes.


Be Creative

Give them the paper towel tube. Or an empty box. Some leftover scraps of fabric. My boys will fight over these things because they can use them to either pretend with or make a craft. Kids love to create, even if they don’t have an end product in mind, so give them things they can cut, paste, and color however they want.

Also: Show them how to play the spoons. Shoot video of them doing a pretend commercial or newscast or have them put on a theatrical production.

These are just some things that I know bring a smile to my boys’ faces, but you know your children best. Find out what puts a twinkle in their eyes, and do that.

And, yes, while some of these ideas probably won’t work as well when my guys get older, I think the same main principles will still apply. Hopefully by that time we’ve established a tradition of enjoying time together and being able to celebrate simple things as a family.

“As a family” is the key because if you notice, nearly everything on the list above requires your interaction or presence. Nothing will bring your children joy like spending time with Mommy and Daddy.

And I’m pretty sure that nothing will bring you greater joy than being with them, too!

WHAT SIMPLE THINGS GIVE YOUR LITTLE ONES JOY?

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5 Tips & Tricks I’ve Learned with My 3rd Baby that I Wish I’d Known with My 1st

Life in Lape Haven: 5 Tips & Tricks I've Learned With My Third Baby that I Wished I'd Known with My First. Even though I've been a mother for nearly 7 years, I've learned a few new things with my third baby that would have been great to know years ago.
When Elijah was born nearly 7 years ago, Brad and I were the newbie parents, reading books and learning everything we could to help us adjust to life with our newborn little boy. When Josiah joined our crew a few years later, we were much more confident in our parenting roles and our experience, but we continued to learn as we parented two very active boys. By the time Isaiah came along a few months ago, we had plenty of tips and tricks up our sleeves, but as it turned out there were a few things that we’ve discovered since his December arrival that I wished we’d known way back at the beginning of our parenting journey.

Life in Lape Haven: 5 Tips & Tricks I've Learned With My Third Baby that I Wished I'd Known with My First. Even though I've been a mother for nearly 7 years, I've learned a few new things with my third baby that would have been great to know years ago.

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BABY BODYSUIT SHOULDERS ARE MADE THAT WAY FOR AN AWESOME REASON

Okay, actually this trick is something I’ve been holding onto for about two years or more. When I first saw videos and comments about it, Josiah was no longer wearing Onesies or other baby bodysuits, so Isaiah is the first child I’ve had a chance to try it out with. And you know what? It’s GENIUS!

You know how the baby bodysuits have those overlapping sections at the top of the shoulders (also called envelope or lapneck shoulder flaps)? I just thought that it was to be helpful for getting them over an infant’s head easily. While that is part of the reason, the biggest, most parent-life-changing reason is so that you can take the Onesie off of your child WITHOUT going over his head. You slip it off his shoulders and down his body.

Anyone who’s ever dealt with a diaper blowout knows the beauty of this method!

The very first time Isaiah wore a bodysuit, I took it off him this way, just to test it out. It was so much easier, especially with a wiggly, floppy newborn.

And not only was it easier to take off that way, we found that in those first few weeks, it was actually easier to put them on him from the feet up. This was incredibly helpful when I discovered that Isaiah’s little sleeper gowns with the elastic at the bottom had the same kind of shoulder flaps. Those go on much easier from the bottom up, too!

Life in Lape Haven: 5 Tips & Tricks I've Learned With My Third Baby that I Wished I'd Known with My First. Even though I've been a mother for nearly 7 years, I've learned a few new things with my third baby that would have been great to know years ago.

Here’s one of the videos I saw that show exactly how easy this method works.

Again, GENIUS!

 

HOW TO CALM A BABY

All babies cry. Since it’s their only way to communicate in the beginning, they do it a lot and fairly often. Knowing that is helpful, but knowing how to meet their needs and calm the crying is even better.

Like most parents, Brad and I had found a variety of soothing techniques with our little ones mostly by trial and error or happy happenstance. For example, when Josiah was tiny, he loved the sound of the dryer running. We discovered this one day when he was crying, and Brad was walking around with him, trying to settle him down. One step into the laundry room, and Josiah stopped crying. Stepping out of the laundry room, he would get fussy again.

When Isaiah was only a week or so old, I saw this video about how to calm a little one and immediately forwarded it to my husband. We were already using some of the techniques and tricks without knowing why they worked. But the order and the way that this man applied them was much more effective and rather amazing to see. (The video was part of a blog post with additional tips to calm a baby.)

Life in Lape Haven: 5 Tips & Tricks I've Learned With My Third Baby that I Wished I'd Known with My First. Even though I've been a mother for nearly 7 years, I've learned a few new things with my third baby that would have been great to know years ago.

In addition, there was another video that you may have seen popping up in your Facebook newsfeed over the last couple of years that showed a similar technique to calming a newborn, and it was an idea that I held onto to try out, too.

This method was demonstrated by a doctor as an almost immediate solution to calm a baby’s crying, and watching the video is rather impressive.

So, of course, we’ve had plenty of opportunity now to try some of the ideas with Isaiah, and they worked really well – so well that I wish we had seen these videos back when our first child was born.

 

THE POWER OF A GOOD SWADDLING SLEEP SACK

All of our boys have used some kind of swaddle or sleep sack, especially when they were first born. However, none of them have ever been particularly effective. The boys all did well at the hospital when swaddled tightly in a blanket, but at home we just couldn’t make our “baby burritos” as well as the nurses.

With Isaiah, we started out with the same sleep sacks and infant swaddlers we used with our older two boys and ended up with the same results: a slightly restless baby, which meant a very rest-less mommy and daddy. Because Isaiah was a bit smaller at birth than our other two, I thought maybe a slightly smaller sleep sack would help him, so I started looking online at all the options.

I decided on the HALO SleepSack Microfleece Swaddler because it not only came in smaller sizes, but also in a winter weight (my other two boys were spring babies, so they didn’t need a heavy sleep sack). The swaddle part of it was also adjustable to either have his hands completely in, partially in, or completely out, which proved to be exactly what we needed as he grew and developed over the first couple of months.

The first night he slept in his new sleep sack, the difference was obvious. It fit him well, he was warm enough, and it swaddled him just right. He was much less restless and slept better and longer than in the other sleep sack we had. I found myself wishing we had tried this sleep sack with our older two.

(This is one of the 10 items that have helped us adjust to life with a new baby.)

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FOREMILK & HINDMILK

As a mom who has breastfed both of her previous babies for at least a year each, you would think I knew this one, and I did…sort of. However, when I was pregnant with Isaiah, I clicked through a few breastfeeding and nursing articles just as a refresher to help me prepare. While the one that I originally read is no longer available (the link doesn’t work), here are some of the articles that helped me.

Foremilk and Hindmilk – What does it mean?

The Good Milk

The Simple Picture that Put Me Back on the Road to Breastfeeding Success

Even reading over what I already knew was a fascinating reminder of how perfectly God created us to provide for our babies.

 

HOW TO BURP A BABY

No matter how you feed your baby, you’ll need to burp him. And I already knew how to burp a baby…only I didn’t. Of all the new things we’ve picked up this time around, this tip is BY FAR our favorite.

I saw this video posted by a blogger on Facebook, watched it, and thought, “That looks funny, but it makes sense. Interesting.” It also reminded me of the calming technique from that doctor’s video.

The day after we watched this burping technique, we were at Brad’s sister’s house for pictures and to visit the family since sickness in all our families had kind of postponed our holiday celebrations. When I tried out this burping method on Isaiah, we all noticed how it calmed him instantly. And I mean, instantly.

Life in Lape Haven: 5 Tips & Tricks I've Learned With My Third Baby that I Wished I'd Known with My First. Even though I've been a mother for nearly 7 years, I've learned a few new things with my third baby that would have been great to know years ago.

Calming Isaiah with the burping technique. (Photo courtesy of Picture Bliss Photography.)

My sister-in-law asked us if that was something we knew he liked, and I explained that we were just testing it out.

However, it quickly became our go-to for not just burping him, but just calming him down. Here’s how I shared about it on the Life in Lape Haven Facebook page the next week:

“UPDATE: OK, we’ve been doing this all weekend, and it SERIOUSLY works! Whenever Isaiah was fussy and we knew it was not from hunger or being sleepy, we did this. Just the goofy hold with the up & down alone calms him, then he usually burps and stays happy.”

It’s still working, and as he’s getting bigger, working us out, too!

WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE TIPS & TRICKS FOR TAKING CARE OF LITTLE ONES?

 

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